SHOULD I TREAT THE PROBLEM DRINKER IN A SPECIAL WAY?
No. Experience has shown that the more attention paid to the alcoholic behavior, the less the alcoholic takes responsibility for it. Allowing him/her to be responsible for his/her own behavior is difficult, yet beneficial for all.
WILL MY TROUBLES BE OVER WHEN THE ALCOHOLIC STOPS DRINKING?
Don’t expect too much too soon. Recovery takes a long time, and not all problems, family or work related, are caused by alcoholism. Abstinence from drinking often unmasks other problems which require different responses.
WILL I STILL NEED AL-ANON EVEN AFTER MY LOVED ONE STOPS DRINKING?
Yes. Just as the alcoholic needs to continue attending meetings, so do his/her loved ones. The disease of alcoholism affects not only the person who drinks, it affects the whole family. The adjustment to sobriety can be aided by our continuing to focus on ourselves and growing in Al-Anon. Many members continue long after the drinking has stopped, or if there is no longer a drinking person in their lives.
AM I SICK TOO?
Alcoholism is a family disease. It is good to remember that we are suffering from the effects of another person’s alcoholism, whether in our present life or somewhere in our past.
WHAT NEW OR OLD RESPONSIBILITIES CAN AN ALCOHOLIC TAKE?
Few, unless the alcoholic has sought sobriety. Some alcoholics can assume responsibilities more quickly than others; the abilities of an alcoholic who has achieved sobriety may be limitless for some, while others truly take life one day at a time.
HOW CAN I HELP AFTER MY LOVED ONE STOPS DRINKING?
Loving and understanding helps. Recovering from the effects of alcoholism, the family disease, ourselves, often aids in ongoing recovery of others.
WHAT IS A “DRY DRUNK”?
When alcoholics, who have not been drinking, get into a state of mind or display behavior previously associated with drinking, they are said to be having a “dry drunk.” It often occurs in early sobriety but is not unusual later in long-term sobriety either.
ARE THERE “SLIPS” IN AL-ANON?
Yes, old reactions are hard to break, and sometimes we unwittingly slip back into old ways of thinking and acting. Keeping in touch with Al-Anon members by means of the telephone, reading Al-Anon literature, and attending meetings helps minimize this behavior.
HOW CAN I KEEP MY LOVED ONE AWAY FROM DRINKING COMPANIONS?